Who Will Call the Truce?

Remembering the way of love.

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The other day I saw a post about Bad Bunny’s speech at the Grammys:

“The only thing that is more powerful than hate is love,” he said. “So, please, we need to be different. If we fight, we have to do it with love.”

In the comments section, someone asked: How do you fight with love?

This is just my opinion, but I’d say … you don’t. I think we have to take fighting out of the equation altogether.

Love doesn’t fight.

And yet, fighting is the language we’ve been taught. We fight back. We keep up the fight. We don’t lose the fight. We fight for our lives. The fight of our lives. It doesn’t matter if it’s cancer. Addiction. Prejudice. Intolerance. Neighbors. Oppression. Injustice.

If someone or something pushes, we push back.

I understand the impulse, and I’ve followed that impulse many, many times. But I’ve honestly never seen fighting win anything for very long.

And it isn’t the way of Love.

Years ago, in one of my A Course in Miracles classes, my friend Renee said something that stopped the room cold:

“Give up the fight.”

It felt almost heretical. Lay down the weapons. Trust that there’s power in peace.

Of course, this sounds ridiculous in a world smitten with fighting, where might over right is respected, outrage is rewarded, and attack and defense feel like the only options on the table.

No wonder world events and personal situations feel so complicated. When we see through a fighting lens, everything becomes an enemy or a threat. And the fighting mentality simply perpetuates the cycle.

So the real question becomes:

Who is going to call the truce?

If not you, then who?

I’ve learned that giving up the fight doesn’t mean being passive or approving of harm or injustice. It means refusing to let attack be the language that shapes your thoughts, words, and actions. It means choosing peace now rather than waiting for someone else to do or say the “right” thing first.

I also believe it means gathering with those who are also standing for peace—and shining that light outward. Being the beacon you want the world to be.

This came up powerfully in my monthly First-Wednesday group coaching session for my paid subscribers yesterday, where we talk about everyday life events from A Course in Miracles perspective. The conversation centered on a simple but radical question:

How can I make this situation better—without waiting for someone else to change first?

Part of the answer, we decided, lies in learning to truly see ourselves.

Not through the ego’s constant judgment, but through the eyes of Spirit. And through the eyes of those who experience us as a steady presence of peace, grace, wisdom, hope, and quiet joy—qualities we so rarely acknowledge in ourselves.

I asked everyone on the Zoom to think of a recent moment when they allowed things to be exactly as they were. Everyone had a hard time coming up with an example because of one word:

Judgment.

So much of our inner fighting lives there.

And yet, when we release judgment—even briefly—we remember that everyone our ego wants to fight with or for will ultimately lead us back to love anyway.

We can take the long road through conflict. Or we can be in peace and love right now.

In the end, it’s all love.

Sometimes the most powerful thing we can bring to a conversation, a gathering, or a difficult situation isn’t an argument or a solution—but our being. A quality of light. A willingness to listen. A calm presence that quietly says, I’m not here to fight.

This is what came up in the guided meditation I did during the Zoom session. It’s an invitation to see the essence of who you are—and what you bring to the world that you may not usually acknowledge. To see yourself as Spirit sees you. And maybe to lay down a few weapons you didn’t realize you were carrying.

You can listen to the meditation here.

And here are a couple of questions that might be helpful:

• Where might you be willing to lay down the fight—and choose peace instead, just for today?

• What qualities of love, peace, or quiet strength do others see in you that you’ve been overlooking?

I try to remember every day that love doesn’t have to fight. It’s the most powerful presence of all.

Sending blessings,

Deb

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